The only life advice you'll ever need

We’ve all double-tapped the quotes.

You know the ones…

“You can’t fail if you don’t quit.”

 “Remember why you started.”

 “You get what you work for.”

Sure, they’re inspiring. 

But there’s only one piece of advice that will help you make the best decisions for
YOU and the life you want to create:

👉 If it’s not a f*ck yes, it’s a no.

Let me explain.

When you’re an ALL IN f*ck yes for something—a project, a mission, a relationship, a vision—the juice is worth the squeeze. 🍋

Even when challenges arise ( and they inevitably do ), the energy you give is returned to you in a way that fuels your passion and growth.

But when you say yes to something half-heartedly (and really wanted to say no or felt obligated)…

You carry that weight for as long as the project, relationship, or commitment drags on ( for some of us, that could be years of unnecessary pain 😬 ).

Your half-hearted yes doesn’t serve anyone.

In fact, it might be draining the life out of you.

As 2024 comes to a close, I invite you to reflect:

Is everything you’re saying yes to a F*ck yes?

If not, here’s how you can start shifting:

1️⃣ Create a freedom date.

Set a realistic timeline to release what no longer serves you.

For some, this might mean setting a freedom date a year from now—especially if what you’re letting go of is tied to your livelihood or a significant relationship. For others, it could be something smaller, like a habit or social commitment, that you can release by next week ( that’s right, you can just decide ).

The freedom date allows you to create a plan and work towards change without feeling the need to blow up your life overnight ( tried that, do not recommend).

2️⃣ Close the chapter with integrity.

Honor the lessons and gifts that came with this project, relationship, or season.

Sometimes, the longer we hold on, the more resentments can build, clouding our ability to see the gifts and opportunities these experiences have given us. To feel truly free, it’s essential to reflect on all decisions—even the ones that didn’t work out—and uncover the good they brought into your life.

Here are a few ideas to help you release with grace:

• If it’s a relationship, write a letter of appreciation gratitude (you can choose to give it to them or not).

• If it’s a job, give lots of notice, don’t burn a bridge.

• If it’s a habit or belief, write in your journal, and consider burning the pages or lighting a candle as a ritual of letting go.

Saying yes to be kind or to meet others’ needs is understandable (we’ve all done it), but if you aren’t clear on your own goals and priorities, you may sacrifice yourself in the process. 

When this goes unchecked for too long, it can erode your relationships and chip away at your self-confidence. Eventually, you may find yourself resenting the situation, and one day, it might even blow up.

The truth? It’s not their fault you said yes when you wanted to say no—that’s yours to own.

The world doesn’t need more half-hearted leaders. It needs leaders who are fully ALIVE in their mission and convicted in the trails they choose to blaze. ❤️

Your Next Action Step: Open up your calendar and reflect—of all the things you said YES to this year, how many were truly a f*ck yes?

Celebrate your YESES. Be fiercely protective of them. Remember, every yes comes with a cost—it could be time spent with loved ones, energy better used elsewhere, or valuable mental space.

This week, try embodying the f*ck yes rule.

Next time someone invites you to a meeting, an event, or a trip, check in with yourself:

Is it a f*ck yes? If not, get curious about that. Let it be a powerful reminder that it may be taking up space for the next ALL-IN, full-body yes that’s meant for you.

Try it out, hit reply and let me know your thoughts.

Until next week, 

Mandy

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